SCIENCE of LIFE

Sree Narayana Guru's

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 BHARYADHARMAM

(The Code of Conduct for a wife)

 

Gurudeva’s this composition is a translation of Thiruvalluvar’s Thirukkural. Thirukkural is a famous Tamil text of social codes that is worshipfully studied even today.

 

Stanza 1.

 

vasthikkothu gunamu-

llavalai varavil samam

vyayavum cheyyukil thante

vazhchakku thuayamaval

 

A wife who spends in accordance with her husband’s income, becomes a solace to him.

 

Stanza 2.

 

gunam kudumbinikkilla_

thakilellamirikkilum

gunamilla kudumbathi-

 nillathakum kudumbavum.

 

If the lady of the house does not possess good qualities, every thing is lost. The family will not have good qualities and ultimately the family will deteriorate and get destroyed.

 

Stanza 3.

 

gunam kudumbinikkunda-

yeedilenthillavalkkatu

illatheyakilenthunda-

ngonnumillatheyayidum.

 

If a house wife has good qualities, what does she lack? If she doesn’t have, what does she have at all? Thus there will be nothing.

 

Stanza 4.

 

charithrasudhiyakunna

gunathodothu chernnedil

grehanayikayekkalum

valuthayenthu labhichidan.

 

If a man acquires a virtuous wife, he has nothing to achieve greater than that.

 

Stanza 5.

 

daivathine thozhatathma-

nadhanethozhuthennume

ezhunnelppaval, peyyennu

cholleedil mazha peythidum

 

A wife who pays her respect to her husband when she wakes up, even before she prays to God, can even bring showers (rains) at her will.

 

Stanza 6.

 

thane rakshichu than prana-

nadhane peni, perine

sookshichu chorchayillathe

vaneedilaval naariyam

 

Only a woman who protects herself (from ill-fame) and looks after her husband without tarnishing his name or image is worth to be called a naari (a woman worth her name).

 

Stanza 7.

 

anthapurathil kaatheedi-

lenthullathavare swayam

naarimar kaakkanam swatma-

charithryam kondatuthamam

 

There is no meaning in protecting women within a house. The ladies should guard themselves, with their virtues (chastity). That is really great (noble).

 

Stanza 8.

 

naarimarkkingu thanprana-

nadhapooja labhikkukil

devalokathilum melam

sreyassokke labhichidam

 

If a woman gets the opportunity to worship (serve) her husband faithfully, she will get a fame much greater than what is available in the abode of Gods.

 

Stanza 9.

 

peru rekshikkunna nalla,

nariyillateyayidil

paridathil simhayanam

gouravam thannil vannida

 

If a man does not have a woman who guards his good name from being tainted, then he will not be able to go out with his head held high (he will lose respect).

 

Stanza 10.

 

naareegunam grehathinnu

bhoorimangalamayatu

saaranam puthranathinu

 nerayoru vibhooshanam

 

A woman’s virtue enhances the fame of the house. If she begets a virtuous son, he becomes an apt adornment to that house.